AXYS-KELLY FAMILY MATCHING GIFT FUNDRAISER
The Ruth Kelly Campaign
Eight years ago our son, Will, at the age of 23 was finally diagnosed as 47,XXY when he was in the process of joining the U.S. Air Force Reserves. It was the military doctors who picked up on his condition, after years of my husband, Dave, and I taking Will to countless doctors and specialists for diagnosis and treatment. None of these highly trained specialists ever suggested getting genetic testing or even suggested that Will might have a genetic condition.
While finally getting a diagnosis was a relief (although a disappointment to Will in that it prevented him from achieving his dream of joining the Air Force Reserves), our relief was short-lived after we realized the lack of knowledge and awareness in the medical community. Will’s endocrinologists at a well-respected global health care institution assured us for two years that testosterone treatment would solve everything and brushed off his health and behavior issues as not being related to 47,XXY. One endocrinologist even fired us when I brought him peer-reviewed medical articles that connected Will’s hand tremors to 47,XXY (as opposed to the doctor’s adamant assertion his tremors were anxiety related). He was apparently insulted that we would not blindly accept his opinions as a board-certified endocrinologist.
It was at this time that we found out about AXYS and attended our first AXYS conference. AXYS truly has made a world of difference in our lives. We were astonished when we discovered later that AXYS maintains all of their services through volunteers and a very limited budget. The resources and support provided by AXYS, its Board of Directors, Executive Director, parents and other volunteers and participating members of the medical community is invaluable to any individual with an X/Y chromosomal variation, their loved ones and to the general medical community overall.
We have been fortunate to have strong family support from Will’s two brothers, Joe and Mike, and from his only surviving Grandparent, Ruth Kelly. Ruth was a rock and always there for us and for Will when we needed her and she surrounded us with love and strength. She also showed us by example how to deal with tough health issues. We lost Will’s Grandmother this past spring after her long battle with cancer that she faced with grace and courage that defies description. We wanted a way to honor Will’s Grandmother that would be meaningful to her and to us. In her memory and honor, our family has decided to make a matching gift to AXYS of $5,000.
We would like the money raised from this campaign to be used by AXYS to provide support to adults with 47,XXY, hopefully through the development of adult specialty clinics. As we continued on our journey after Will’s diagnosis we discovered that research, education and support for adult men with 47,XXY was lagging behind that available for younger children. Our family has attended the last three AXYS conferences and we have had the opportunity to talk with Will’s peers and to listen to their concerns. One of the things we’ve heard over and over again is that the medical professionals with whom they are engaged lack knowledge of the medical issues associated with 47,XXY and often are not even familiar with the different forms of testosterone treatment available. The AXYS Clinic and Research Consortium and their model of multi-disciplinary and holistic care seems like a big step in the right direction to help create Centers of Excellence where XXY adults can get expert evaluations and treatment recommendations.
We also hope that our gift can assist AXYS in a broader outreach to other medical professionals and possibly provide funding for an adult retreat in 2018 for the men with 47,XXY to meet and continue brainstorming on best medical practices that would assist other doctors in providing the best possible treatment.
These are all challenging objectives that will require significant financial support and time to accomplish, but we are confident that with the help of AXYS and many people, they will be achieved. And Ruth Kelly would have been very proud to be associated with this effort.